Last month, when the CBSE 12th results were released, I heard about this boy Hemang, who scored 95% in the board examinations. And he was sad, terribly disappointed. Reason- he wouldn’t be able to get into Delhi University. Well, that was when it just shook me, and I was grieved to realise the cut-throat competition that has overshadowed the lives of the young adults with fear, worry, and anxiety. For us, even 75% was a good score, and a reason to celebrate. But with colleges getting highly selective and the job market uncertain, the whole education scenario today has become more stressful than ever.
The fight for a prestigious college has become so intense that students consider getting into an IIT or IIM something without which there is no life. Notably, students have started preferring a college over a course. They compromise their desired course to get into their dream college. After all, the name has become so important.
If you are too facing this phase of life where nothing seems less than a race, then wait, life could be easier. Though it has become very challenging, there are ways you can equip yourself to win this challenge. Following are some things you should keep in mind to survive this struggle and make the best choice for yourself.
First of all, Relax!
You need to calm down first and have confidence in yourself. Know that the skies would not fall if you don’t get into that college, which has taken away your sleep. Only when you are relaxed and peaceful, can you give your best and achieve success.
Do not compare!
One of the biggest worries is that all your friends have got into good colleges or have got settled, unlike you. Remember that each person has a unique set of aptitudes, interest and capabilities. What is best for them, might not be good for you. It isn’t a wise act to try to match the speed of others.
Define your own success
Every person has their own definition of success, create your own! Many a times we unknowingly start measuring our success in terms of what our friends believe. You need to check your mind getting influenced there. Find out what is best for you, through brainstorming, various offline and online aptitude tests, personality tests or consult a counsellor, or discuss it with parents and elders. Get to know for sure about your personal interests and aims.
Expand your knowledge and skill domain
Continue gaining knowledge through coaching and preparatory courses, do not sit idle. Also, make efforts to develop various skills like confidence and communication through skill training workshops, leadership workshops. Also, consider being active and involved in co-curricular activities inside and outside school. All this would help you in clearing interviews and having an edge over other students.
Often, students take too long to submit their applications while applying for admissions. It is preferred if you apply at the earliest and submit your application on time.
It is absolutely alright if you do not get selected at some place. Do not get depressed, know that there isn’t an end to the options. The worst that can happen is that you get into a wrong college, but even then it is your hard work and skills that count. You can achieve great heights even without a college. Besides, rejections make you stronger and actually add flavour to life.
Keep backup options
Be open to more than one college and apply for admission at many colleges, at least 6-7. You can keep your own priorities and favourites, but it always makes sense to keep backups ready in case you miss your most preferred choice.
At last, know that everything just works out fine and you have the ability to do the best with your life.