Parenting can be very stressful and the stress management can become elusively horrendous for many. I do not say this from a personal experience, rather by observing. It is said that the months of March and May are stressful for children. However, the stress level amongst parents during this period cannot be fathomed. It doesn’t matter if you are a single parent or whether you have one child or many; also the stress levels aren’t directly proportional to your child’s ability. In a world with ever changing performance parameters and increasing competition, children face an uphill task of outscoring their peers.
The annual CBSE class 12 exam, this year, witnessed a surge in the number of registrations with almost 11 lakh students appearing for the exam. Now compare it to the mediocre state of many of our higher education institutes and you could easily understand the emotions through which many parents go through. That said, what many parents forget is the fact that children should not be bound by their urgency to see their child become engineers or doctors. There are many different fields available for them to forge their careers in. If parents cannot effectively deal with their personal stress levels, it will be doubly more difficult for their children to look for positivity.
Stress management tips for Parents:
Find the right information
The first piece of advice for parents is not to panic – there are ample resources available to consult. For instance, our own portal – Global Educates – offers a plethora of information, like the courses offered to students, faculties, institutes, and much more. Also, parents can consult specialized CBSE helplines. Often, parents neglect the importance of consulting a career counsellor to discuss their child’s shortcomings and seek advice on future course of action. Parents can do a great deal when it comes to encouragement and sustenance. Always remember, stress management is the primary way of dealing with the various challenges posed by your child’s poor display at the annual class 12 results.
Think through your decisions
The other common mistake which parents make while dealing with their child’s poor results is rushing into making decisions. It is obvious for a parent to get annoyed at an apparent lack of effort or preparation. That said, don’t undermine the hard work put in by your child; appreciate it and encourage them to achieve more. No child studies to score low marks, however, certain situations make it horribly difficult for children to overcome. Instead, focus on encouraging your child to look at the positives and work to better their weaknesses. It is one of the most important components of stress management for parents.
A gap year
A gap year spent travelling or pursuing a field of interest can add a great deal to your child’s CV. Sometimes your child’s inability to seek admission after class 12 is more about the competition than their ability. Work experience, especially if it shows that your child can work in a team, is always appreciated and will tackle anything. Click here to read about how a gap year might be the ‘next’ stress management tool for you.
The key to stress management is to build a never say die attitude in your child. Don’t robotically assume that college is your child’s first choice, and remember if they are unsuccessful in getting admission this time, they might find that a year at college has been more beneficial, especially since that can offer more hand-holding than university, which is what some students need. Remember, rather than negativity and constant bickering, what your child needs the most is support during such testing times.
Stress management isn’t difficult, especially dealing with stress of your child’s poor score in class 12 results, however, inactions of parents and their reluctance to deal with the stress is worrisome.